The reasons why you should not break-up even if your not inlove.

People with solid relationships struggle in their marriages. Many of the problems come from us making poor choices like not making time for our spouses and a lack of intimacy. There are a few essential ingredients to keep a marriage going. Things like hard work, communication and support goes a long way. But maybe you've done all the right things and are falling out of love with your partner. Or maybe your spouse told you that they are not in love anymore. Does this mean the marriage is over or that you should get a divorce? It is natural to think along those lines. If you believe that the love is gone in your relationship, it doesn't need to be a death sentence for your marriage. Here are the reasons that you should not end a relationship because you believe that the love is gone. First, They Make You a Better Person. Sometimes we get stuck in our lives and this includes our relationship. A bond will make you a better person or make you a worse person. Take a moment to see if the person you are with still brings out the best in you. If you have learned to be a better fighter, a better friend, a better parent or a better neighbor, there is value here. If you guys can still laugh after a fight and keep it civil--keep the relationship going and don't give up. There is something there that is significant and merits saving.  Second, Don't Trust Your Feelings. Feelings are up and feelings are occasionally down. Welcome to life, friend. The same holds true in your marriage. Sometimes you want to be with them and sometimes you want to leave the country for more space. Even then, the miles are not enough. The next moment you are sending loving texts their way. You get the picture. Don't go by your feelings to conclude if you are in love or not. Feelings will lie to you and they will lead you astray. You really can't gauge a relationship by this. Feelings are fickle, so beware on how to move onward. Third, They are Your Go-To Person. If you are going through a tough time, who is the person you go to first? If it is your spouse, obviously there is something there. A healthy relationship is based on a mutual give and take. If you both rely on each other--they're still the first person in your life for support. People search high and low for a person that will be strong and dependable. If you are pissed off at them, it clouds your thinking of how you seemingly do love them. When the dust settles, who are you going to reach out to? If it is your spouse, you have the answer to any lingering doubts. Fourth, You Fight Fair. You are probably fighting as you read this. However, if you can fight fair and without feeling disrespected, unloved or feel that you are in danger because of tempers flying--you guys are better than most couples. If you have the discipline to walk away to cool down and to take a breather, that is a great indicator that you have evolved as a couple. Most fights are not productive. But if you are making headway and you are both hearing each other out, you are making progress. That is half the battle as many times people will draw fights out for lengthy periods of time. Fifth, You Still Communicate. Maybe communication is not the problem, it is how you communicate. There will be times when you don't want to deal with them or they are not listening. This is not an anomaly. People become tired, are working and sometimes don't have a lot to offer. Poor communication is usually the culprit. There could be one who is passive aggressive and doesn't know how to communicate and one who is always communicating but in the wrong way. We just have to find a happy medium where we can get on the same page and establish better communication skills. And last but not the least, You Still Have Feelings for Them. If you search your heart, you know that there is still a spark for your spouse. There was just a disconnection along the way. This doesn't mean you don't love each other or that you are not compatible, it might be a lack of intimacy. You both might need to seek counseling to figure out what happened. The marriage could be renewed as you work through some things. For example, if you are feeling bored in your relationship, start working towards changing it and ask the therapist for advice. A marriage is a commitment, so don't discount or be afraid to ask for help. People fall in and out of love. That is true. But before you claim that you have no love for them, think for a moment before making the wrong choice. In a world that tells us to go with our feelings all the time, we need to become more patient when making the larger decisions when it comes to our marriage.

Transition

I have loved. I have lost and I have changed. It has been difficult but I have learned so much from it. I have learned that people can hurt you so deeply and not even worry about you. I learned that good people can change in a minute when their hearts have been broken. I’ve met great people, but mean people as well. But the most important thing I have learned is that every person in this world is strong enough to let go . People come and go and that’s life! The most important thing is to stand up and realize that you deserve something better than a person who gives up on you.
I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what degrades me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal.
This is the part of my life where I silently remove myself from anyone who hurts me more than they love me, drains me more than they replenish me, brings me more stress than they do peace, and tries to stunt my growth rather than clap for it. I think that I’ve done more than enough talking and trying to make things work with certain people…I’m done.
At the end of life, what really matters is not what we bought, but what we built; not what we got, but what we shared; not our competence, but our character; and not our success, but our significance. Live a life that matters. Live a life with those who are true and really care for you.

"She"

I can tell you a lot about her. She’s someone with a huge heart. She will bend over backwards and fold herself in half helping out someone if she can do anything. Her loyalty to the ones that mean something to her is unheard of nowadays. She smiles like she’s never been hurt, and if you didn’t know her, you wouldn’t ever imagine her to ever be hurt. But it happens, a lot more than anyone realizes. She’s really fragile, and it takes very little for her to be hurt, as she takes everything to heart. I’m not surprised though if you don’t know a lot though, because she’s really cautious and her letting someone close to her is a rare thing to happen. There are demons inside her that she’s constantly in a fight with. And she’s a lot worse to herself than anything that could be said to her. Her past is not one of her favorite subjects. She wouldn’t expect anyone to notice her or to listen to the things she has to say that aren’t necessary to be said. But I’m telling you, she’s so worth it all, she’s nothing you’d ever expect, and you’ll feel alive in a way that you’ve never have with her in your life.
She doesn’t need expensive gifts. She doesn’t need expensive dinners. I mean sure all of those things would be nice but, all she really needs is you. She needs your listening ear when she is ready to vent. She needs your shoulder to cry on when life gets hard on her. She needs your words of encouragement when she is getting ready to pursue her dreams. She needs to be able to feel safe around you, and know that you have her best interest when it comes to her heart. And if it’s taking her a while to let you in, she isn’t trying to punish you. She just doesn’t want to repeat making the same mistakes she has made in the past of giving a man her all, just to find out that he couldn’t match her effort. Love her genuinely. Love her patiently. Love her passionately. And last but not least, love her consistently and in return, she will love you like you have never been loved before.
To her “I love you” means that she accept you for the person that you are, and that she do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that she will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. It means loving you even when you’re in a bad mood, or too tired to do the things she want to do. It means loving you when you’re down, not just when you’re fun to be with. “I love you” means that she know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, asking in return that you do not judge her for who she is. It means that she care enough to fight for what both of you have and that she love you enough not to let go. It means thinking of you, dreaming of you, wanting and needing you constantly, and hoping you feel the same way for her. That's all she needed and ever wanted.