Marriage between a couple

A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband... a wife who sees all the bad side of the husband vs a husband who hears all the negative things about his wife. To be happily married, the wife must first accept the husband's shortcomings and the husband should be patient with wife's shortfall. This is how me and my husband get through our 12 years of having each other. But in some cases no one is really sure of the future ahead of you. If you encounter an accident or sickness that can take your life short and leaved your partner eventually in this world. Its a natural separation. Inspite of this natural catastrophic events, there are also certain events that can be prevented, planning is the key to get a successful marriage. It also takes two to tango. Love is not all about feelings, it is a decision. It is natural that the spark we feel at the start will disappear as time goes by. That's where the decision play its role whether to pursue the relationship or end it up. The decision is yours. If your love was not strong enough to stand the test of time. If you want to break free then you should frankly tell the other person. Maybe he/she will be hurt but eventually they can move on. People are meant to fall in love, fall out of love & fall in love again until we meet someone meant for us or someone we want to spend the rest of our life. Be fair to him/her & to your very self. There's no easy way to break somebody's heart specially if he/she is a good person. But it is more painful to go on in a relationship where we can't be happy anymore. Maybe you need a break & find yourself. You can tell him/her about it & if he/she understand you he/she will let you go. Maybe you are burned out with your relationship. And don't you think this is not important because we are indeed struggling. Sometimes all we need in a relationship is a time apart. Who knows when we get back to each other we are a whole person again. Find a solution to your problem so both of you can move on. Be honest to yourself & to him/her. Marriage is a commitment. If you cant take full responsibility with your partner then maybe getting married is not an option for you. Its better to live single and its best that you cant be hurt and get anyone hurt right? But then again things to decide are different if it will involved the children in between your marriage.

Change is coming deep inside

So sweet love seemed that April morn, when first we kissed beside the thorn. So strangely sweet, it was not strange. We thought that love could never change. But u had changed the way you treated me before. How stupid i seemed to be. Crying silently in this dark alley. Wont u come and hold me tight tonight? Hug me from behind and kiss me passionately. Whisper in my ear the words i longed to hear you say everyday, for it gives me the will to live my life much longer so we can grow old together. How hopeless i feel to think that you would fulfill my wishes. It may be just my fantasy. You may not utter those words until my last breath. It gives me so much pain when you treat me cold as ice. Cant you feel this pain im feeling inside? Are you that insensitive of my needs? Time gets me tired... As it keeps on going and ticking the more i feel so damn wasted. If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot? All i can say is that we must value each other even when time continue ticking. Our only security is our ability to change. Any change, even a change for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts.