The past is an integral part of the present. No matter what situation you are in your past determines your present reality. Sometimes our past can teach us overcome and realized the importance of something or someone in our life until its gone. Even the past feelings still affects our behaviors at present specially when we try to remember those memories we left behind and the people that made us feel that way. And sometimes we imitate those feelings again in the present moment. The people that made an impact in our life in the past still matter in our subconscious mind. Some notices it and some dont really mind as long as they are living a happy life in the present reality. I think those who still lingers in the past has'nt really moved on or should i say they are living in regret. Its ideal if you are aware of your present life than living in the past full of what ifs? Still dreaming for another chance to continue to live with that kind of feeling. We cannot cut the ties of past experiences because we live up to it to be in our present situation. The in between's are the choices we made to settle in the present reality. Our world is big and the universe is infinite its full of mysteries, our situations changes everytime. We cannot hold up to this present moment always for it will be another record of our past when tomorrow comes. Changes are the only constant thing in this world, we need to live up to it to continue to exist. I think its better to live our life with no regret just learning from it everyday. Think of what's really important in your present life. Who are the people that matters most in your life now and not the one's whom you leaved behind in your past. The present is the one that you choose to have that's why you are living with it. If you already learned from your failures in the past you wouldn't want to experienced the same. And if your happiness from the past really made you happy then keep that feeling and share it with your present reality with the people you have in your life now. That way you can keep the happiness that you need for life. Lingering on the feelings from the people you cherished in the past is really unfair if its not the same person. You should learn how to focus on the present reality of your life including the person you are with now because things on the past that you want to live with and keep forever in your heart would have'nt been lost or failed if you learned to focus at your present situation at certain moment. So learn and focus your life at present, that's what really matters to you now. The sense of responsibility is upon your shoulder. Keep that in mind always, that way we can all avoid disappointments and frustrations. We wont experience depression. Its a very ugly feeling that can bury you alive. Better yet, avoid the negativity and always be hopeful think positive, its like a magnet for good vibes and you will feel lighter; good things happen when you think of goodness only. Most of all keep your faith in God for His plan is bigger than your plan. God knows what to do. Always be good for you'll get the best reward. That's all!
March 25, 2019
Past vs. Present
February 8, 2019
Langkawi Island
Our first family trip this year 2019. Actually today is the Chinese new year celebration. My family went to langkawi island to spend our holiday break. Its time to relax and have fun specially the kids. This trip is our surprised for them.. We tell the kids that were going to a secret place, the excitement and fun comes pouring since the day we make hotel booking and bought tickets to ride on ferry. Langkawi is a tourist spot destination in the Northwest part of Malaysia and its the Duty free capital of this country. We went off to the ferry terminal going to langkawi at noon time. The ferry sails at 2pm. So we still got plenty of time. No worries for there's no traffic jam today. When the kids finds out the secret place that we mention was langkawi they were surprised and when its time for us to go inside the ferry Yuri felt scared a bit. It is the first time for the kids to ride on this kind of transportation. The sea travel takes 3 hrs to reached our destination. Seems like everybody fell asleep except for me. The feeling of excitement keeps me awake.
We arrived in langkawi at 5pm and were all starving. We found a food court beside the exit of the building, the place was crowded and food were simple but tasty and cheaper. After eating we booked a grab taxi, unfortunately the first taxi cancel my booking, then found again the nearby available grab taxi, waited for 10 mins to get in the car, its small but everybody can fit including our luggage's. The driver is quiet hot tempered due to traffic jam. Inside the port terminal area was crowded and many cars coming in and out which causes traffic jamming. Will take more time and patience to exit to main roads. We reached the hotel in 15 mins.. We are amazed of this hotel, simple and classic, family-friendly atmosphere. Most of the people checkin' in were with kids and family. The room is clean and nice with the sea view. It has two bedroom suite, a balcony with kitchen, two baths and drying room. The bed is big enough for us.. Sayuri and Daichi goes swimming soon after we get in our room. The kids pool has a slide where the kids play while swimming. Me and hubby accompany them to the pool, hubby ordered up a beer and coffee together with cordon bleu and a fries side dish. Were relaxing a little, until kids finished swimming. Later in the evening, when everyone gets hungry we went down the lobby where there is an Indian resto beside the souvenirs shop lining up the front desk reception. The food was good and very affordable. The food satisfies our hunger. Burp-burp-burp! We find the souvenir shop fascinating and went to buy some for the kids and mine. Everyone was happy.
The next day, we planned to go at oriental village to see the sky bridge. Before our trip we already pre-booked our tickets. Its a package worth 55rm/adult and 41rm/child which include Star Dome, 3D museum, sky cab gondola and the star Rex. The ticket for the sky glide to go to the sky bridge is separate we need to buy it when we reach the top, the tickets were worth 15rm/adult and 10rm/child. The last activity the Star Rex we didn't push to go because our time was limited and the line up was quiet tiring. Were all sweating cause of the crowd. But it was a fun and happy moments together while waiting for the cue up. When we ride the sky cab it was an amazing panorama view. Breathe taking view and very much fulfilling experience, the sky cab was so exciting and fun but a bit scary if something happen on the cable operation we can be stucked up there hanging.. my oh my a scary thought i had in mind. I hope we dont fall down in the forest. The kids enjoyed much this ride though. Another memorable experience for them and for us as a family. We finished our activity by around past 6pm. Then along the road we decided to have a seafood for dinner.. using the google map we search for resto around the corner and street of pantai cenang road. We found the resto named The Roof, it was a cozy and a bit expensive Chinese seafood resto. The ambiance was rustic with wooden theme. The food was deliciously good. We were satisfied. Then after dinner we went back straight to the hotel. Today's activity was done its tiring but fulfilling seeing the happy face of my family. Hubby is in good mood too. After cleaning up and shower we can finally head to bed and have a peaceful sleep. It was a wonderful evening.
The 3rd day we decided to go for a swim at the pool. Everybody is enjoying, i also got to try the slide a few times with the kids. It feels so great and i feel like a child again. Hahahaha 😂😂😂 but cant continue doing so bcoz im an adult already and its quiet embarrassing for me also. So i just go along and bring the kids at the large pool. Daichi cant reach the pool floor yet so i need to assist him. Then hubby went in the water with us too. We all enjoyed swimming. By lunch time we go on with our sked to go in Pantai cenang area at the big mall there. The mall was named Zon its a duty free mall just beside the langkawi aquarium. First we went to eat for lunch, the kids wanted mc donalds so we had burgers and fries. Later then we go inside the duty free mall and found that the items here were all so cheap. I bought up some chocolate and hubby buy us liquor, its been a long time since he had a drink of his favorite whiskey. I also had one for myself. Hehehe 😁😁😁 Hubby was surprised of the cheap price of the things here specially the alcohol. When buying alcohol you will need to present a government issued ID or passport. Maybe they are checking when you are minor, a foreign national, Muslim or not. I like this place, i wanted to stay a little more days but sad to say we need to go back home in Penang by tomorrow. 😟 I wish we can come back soon again and get a hotel nearby this area. Its so amazing and fun to look around at every corner of the streets. Many shops and likes, also seafood resto's. At this moment i really feel like a real tourist in this area. After shopping, we went to the beach side, the sand beach was so fine, it was fascinating. Many tourist in their swim suits walking by, sun bathing, enjoying the water activities even when the sun is really hot. Hubby let Yuri and ichi try and ride the jet-ski with him. The kids first time experiencing the ride, ichi seemed to fall asleep coz' of the wave maybe and Yuri got a bit scared when the wave goes high and bump into them. But hubby rides it slowly too. After the jet-ski ride we went out on the street where there were lots of souvenirs shop. Buy some and went back to the car we rented. We decided to go back to the hotel and had our dinner with room service. Everybody was tired.. We all had been busy on this holiday, later after dinner hubby and Yuri went for a little swim while i get massage at this hotel's spa. The massage was not so satisfying. A bit disappointed. Thai massage is much better for me. Tonight is a sweet night. Another day pass by, the next day is our last day here in langkawi. We had collected lots of good and fun memories as a family. Before leaving the hotel we had our usual breakfast at the hotel's buffet, after that kids and hubby went for a last plunge in the pool while im keeping and preparing our luggage's. After im done i went down and gave the kids ice cream and hubby's ice latte. Im thankful and grateful for him being a good husband and father to our children. This moment is ours to keep in our memories.
By 12 noon we went down for check out. Wait for the grab taxi to send us to ferry terminal. We missed to see the eagle statue, one of the activity i planned to visit during this trip. We run out of time to do so, maybe next time around when we get to visit here again. I hope we will. Anyway, we took our lunch at Kenny rogers while waiting for our boarding time. After that we went inside the terminal for checking in but sadly hubby lost our printed boarding pass. Now he has to run at the agency to reprint it again. He paid 5rm for that. Until the time comes for us to board at the gate we were the first on the line we were given the seats no. 1-5 its in front row of the ferry. It was more spacious. All the kids and i fall asleep. The trip was fun and tiring at the same time but it was a good time with lots of memories to cherished. Goodbye for now Langkawi.
God bless you all! Have a nice day...c",)
January 22, 2019
Kids love to play
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January 21, 2019
Being grateful for each new day everyday
October 22, 2018
His needs, Her needs by W.F. Harley
Happy Marriage Tips for His Needs Her Needs
The rest of this page is dedicated to providing very helpful resources and tips for a happy marriage that will assist you in building your marriage relationship and helping you discover that you too can have and enjoy a happy marriage, as you work on meeting his needs, her needs. So enjoy this priceless collection of information!
Also, if you know anyone who's interested in strengthening their marriage relationship, home and family, or anyone you believe needs some knowledge to help them with their marriage, or marriage pursuit, feel free to forward them this website's information. Also encourage them to visit often. It's time for marriages to succeed, as we commit to meeting his needs, her needs.
Happy Marriage Tip #1:
Getting the benefit of the doubt is one of His Needs Her Needs
If your partner does something that offends you, such as, break their promise to take you out on a date, stayed out too late, you noticed them conversing for quite a long time with some lady or man, was suppose to help you with some task, but didn't or simply didn't do something they gave their word on, and you are yet to hear his or her explanation for your observation, do not conclude on something negative, but give him or her the benefit of the doubt to explain their reasons.
When your mate notices that you would always hear them out first, without running into conclusions with a grumpy story, they will be more forthcoming with the story or reasons and do so more relaxed, knowing you haven't told yourself a negative story about the situation. Also, when you do this, make sure it is not mere lip service, but let it be obvious that you genuinely would prefer to hear him or her tell you about it, than to believe something negative in your mind. By doing this, you are meeting one of his needs, her needs, which is to be heard out. So exercise some patience. Do this next time.
Happy Marriage Tip #2:
Going the extra mile can be meeting one of His Needs Her Needs
Taking time and putting in a little extra effort to do more than your spouse requested and expects, more often than not, meets some of his needs or her needs that were unspoken. Say for instance, guys, your wife asks you to help her with the dishes one evening, and you went ahead to wipe down the counters and stove as well or ladies, your husband asks you to help him with the packing of his luggage for a business trip, and you went ahead to slip in a love note with a spritz of your perfume.
These little extras could be so appreciated, you won't believe it. Just imagine how it would feel if you were at the receiving end, or if "acts of service" is his or her primary love language. And think about it, isn't it a wonderful feeling that of your own accord, you decided to do a little more than requested or expected? So, whenever you have the opportunity to lend a helping hand, take some time to think of how you could go the extra mile for your sweetheart!
Happy Marriage Tip #3:
Falling in love daily meets one of His Needs Her Needs
You can keep your marriage relationship with your partner really fresh and vibrant by falling in love with him or her on a daily basis. Things like taking turns to plan date nights on a regular basis and mixing in activities that you know are some of his or her favorites, would really make date nights something to anticipate with pure delight. Also, having new things to do each date night will keep this time together fresh and full of suspense. I believe everyone appreciates a pleasant surprise whenever one is given, so keep that in mind as you think of unique and creative things to do.
Now, many of these dates don't necessarily have to involve spending lots of money. It can be absolutely free as you attend your local parks and the historical sites around you. Also, you could simply rent a video to watch together. Giving a shot at something new together such as, learning how to play a game like table tennis (a.k.a ping-pong), golf, tennis or other things like, taking dance lessons or trying out a foreign cuisine. The primary goal here is to spend "quality time" together, where you're doing just about anything, which might be one of his needs, her needs.
Happy Marriage Tip #4:
Unwinding together is one of His Needs Her Needs
After a long day of job responsibilities or getting lost in the hectic world of work and catering to family commitments, spending time together to unwind or decompress after dinner and before bedtime, is a great way of connecting and bringing back those affectionate feelings for each other. Discussing the good, the bad and ugly events of the day is something you should consider an important way to end your day.
Your partner will love this, as you both make it a daily routine. This will help you both look at things together and strengthen each other as you put them in proper perspective. An area of his needs, her needs will certainly be satisfied as you practice this. Do it today!
Happy Marriage Tip #5:
His Needs Her Needs - satisfied by Embracing Your Differences
They say it is usually the unique traits of your partner that attracted you to them at first, that ends up driving you crazy. Now, that does not have to be the case when we learn to embrace their differences, love those differences and express our appreciation of the fact that he or her is different in that way from us, and that we are not embarassed and never will be ashamed or put down by their uniqueness. It could be the way they laugh, walk, talk or react to situations. Now, this is not referring to say, dressing in a provocative manner in public or some extreme situation that is a product of immaturity.
A sense of security is established in their heart, knowing you have fully embraced who they are and have no plans of getting them to change or else. This sense of security is definitely among his needs, or her needs, especially for the ladies; this is certainly one of her needs. You need to give that assurance of security. Admiring his or her differences can help your marriage relationship remain interesting. Honestly, you are really beginning to love your spouse when he or she does something that is way difference from your style, and you love them for it. Think about it.
Happy Marriage Tip #6:
His Needs Her Needs Could Be The Little Things
It is a quite remarkable fact, that water, at 211 degrees is simply hot, but at 212 degrees boils. Just that additional degree makes all of the difference. Similarly, just a little more of something, sometimes makes a lot of impact. It could be a simple touch, such as a gentle squeeze of a shoulder or arm as you pass by your mate. This will usually be well appreciated, as it conveys a meaningful message of love and caring. Do this sometimes, and you will be satisfying one of his needs, her needs.
Something else that could have that same extra-degree-effect and meet one other of his needs, her needs, can be simply expressing appreciation for a kind, selfless gesture done, such as, when he opens your door, or when he or she hands you a plate, or similar acts of kindness. These gestures should be followed with a kind word of appreciation, which shows we notice and appreciate the little things, and that speaks volumes of our sense of respect and politeness. And since this is a marriage relationship, where there are no hidden agendas, receiving and giving compliments should be done freely.
Happy Marriage Tip #7:
His Needs Her Needs: Respect and Love
For a man, respect is the most important thing he values and for a woman, love is the most important thing to her. And so, if a man senses his wife was being disrespectful, he will react in an unloving matter. On the other hand, when a woman senses her husband has just acted unloving, she will react in a disrespectful manner. And the cycle continues.
I strongly believe that when you speak a man's primary love language, he senses respect or sees it as respecting him. The same goes a for lady; when you speak her primary love language, she senses that as love. So for the man, when you sense disrespect from your wife, ask yourself the question, "did I just act in an unloving way?" or "in what way did I just act unloving?". And for the lady, when you feel your husband acted unloving, ask yourself, "did I just act disrespectfully?" or "in what way was I just disrespectful?. Asking yourself these questions, and answering them will help you identify those little things that can lead to conflict, and start learning to avoid them.
Now, to break the cycle mentioned above, you will have to go out of your way to respond differently. Men, you will have to respond lovingly even after sensing disrespect and women, you will have to respond respecfully, even after sensing an unloving attitude. This will end the cycle and get the respect and love flowing again. As you do this today, you will be undoubtedly meeting his needs, her needs.
Happy Marriage Tip #8:
His Needs Her Needs: Optimism and Reassurance
It is always astonishing to see how pessimistic people can be sometimes. Honestly, when they walk into a room, you can feel the depression or despondency. Now, on the other hand, when a person who tends to be appreciative, hopeful and confident about the future or the success of something, walks into the room, you feel your spirit or confidence raised by their presence. Both of these feelings are brought back to one's mind long after the person leaves the room.
So the food for thought is, which of the two are we: The voice of discouragement or the uplifter of the lives of others? If we are not at the place we would so much like to be, in the words of H. Jackson Brown, Jr., it is possible to "Become the Most Positive and Enthusiastic Person You Know".
It all goes back to the stories and thoughts we allow to be created in our minds. No matter what is going on in our lives, as long as we still have reasons to be thankful and grateful for something and make that our focus, we can be the lifting power in the lives of others. So, as an example, the next time you get back home, and walk through the door, thinking about the things you are thankful and grateful for, would keep a pleasant expression on your face. Your partner, seeing that expression, will sure be uplifted, and you will be meeting his needs, her needs, for optimism and reassurance
October 12, 2018
Forgiveness
Forgiveness is the key to free yourself from guilt and pride. You dont do it for others but for yourself. Forgiveness is the act of great love. It is never given without love be it for yourself or to others.
I had learned that we can never live in peace if there is even a little hatred or grudges in us.. even when you think you had everything you can never be in peace and be truly happy.
So lets be kind and forgiving to others that offended us not only for their sake, but for ourselves too. I admit we are just human and tends to hurt others and be hurt. But wouldn't it be a better world if we can practice forgiving and giving chances for them to grow and repent on what they've done to us.
The life we have is not in our control.. we can die anytime at any place. So instead of planting bad habits and hurting others and yourself, lets do the most of our life and live better for everyone. Clear your thoughts of the negativity in this world, and emit a light of possitivity to be a reflection to others. Just like a genuine smile that lifts you up for the whole day. And the laughter without holding it to burst out.. such freedom to do so can be achieved when we forgive and be forgiven. Keep calm and always pray for God's guidance.🤗😄😇🙏
October 2, 2018
Anxious..
Having this feeling of anxiousness really makes my tummy hurt. This cramping pain doesn't give me the justice to feel and do what i had to do. My anxiety is fed up by unsupportive partner that only thinks so negatively. I feel wronged everytime i want to do important things that affects our future. I feel that my wants to do the things that of a priority for me seems to be neglected. How am i supposed to moved forward, to grow and learn when my decisions wasn't on the list of his priorities. I maybe misunderstood, and im tired of being the understanding, patient, listener, and follower to every decision we have to make for our future and our life as a family. It makes my eyes wet with this warm tears 😢😢😢, i only wanted support and be heard.
Lord, pls give me strength to fight for my rights, give me the courage to speak up my concerns and grant me the support that i need. You know my heart and my intensions.. speak through my conscience and give me the right intuition and I will follow thee. Touch the heart of my partner who should support me too. In Jesus name. AMEN 🙏🙏🙏